Living with More Passion & Purpose
Jessica Malingowski is a food freedom coach in Durham, North Carolina. She is excited to be sharing her story as a guest blogger for this community!
If you’re anything like me, you are probably not fulfilled by simply working a daytime job, watching TV in the evenings, and running errands all weekend. There is something in you that finds this lifestyle to be boring and passionless. There is something in you that wants to continue to learn and discover new things about yourself and the world around you.
I believe it’s important to stay curious in life. I believe there are a lot of people who are stuck in the lifestyle I described above. They work their 9-5 job and live for the weekends. They do not set aside time for any form of self-care. They choose to live passively, because it’s easier than learning more and facing fears.
I don’t want myself or you to live this lifestyle. Life is too short to throw your passions to the side and “just get by.” Our lives are meant to be joyful and lived with purpose. Here are three ways to help find your purpose in life and feel more fulfilled.
1. Become Self-Aware
There are many people who do not have a sense of who they truly are. It is easy to get caught up in the norms of society and I think some people simply follow those norms because that’s what they’re “supposed” to do. Instead of following these norms, make sure you are aware of what you truly want to do in life.
What has helped me to become more self-aware are activities like reading, meditating, journaling, and learning more about our ego versus our inner truth. If you do not take the time to get to know yourself, you may not ever find your true passion in life.
2. Define What Lights You Up
Once you develop more self-awareness, this question should become easier to answer. What is something you love to do even when there is no reward involved?
For example, maybe there is a cause you enjoy supporting or maybe you have fun writing blog posts. When I started my coaching business, I remember being coached myself on what lights me up. Did I enjoy coaching people one-on-one or in groups? Did I enjoy writing or speaking? What did I truly want to coach people on? I had to evaluate the activities that I did every day for my business in order to figure out what direction I wanted to take.
Of course, there are small tasks I need to do no matter what, but I had to get real with myself about what brought me pure joy and what did not. There will always be tasks that you have to do (because #adulting), but I don’t think the bulk of our time should be spent doing something we dread.
3. Take Action
The best way to start living more purposefully is to incorporate new daily habits and take action. One that I’ve started doing every night is writing down three things I’m thankful for and also my top ten goals. This has made a major difference in my mindset, especially on days when I’m feeling down or unmotivated. I also think it’s a great idea to write down your top goals without any limitations.
For example, don’t shy away from a goal by saying you’d like 15k Instagram
followers – go big and say 500k or more! You attract what you focus on, so go big and manifest what you truly want.
Another action step that I believe is truly important is ensuring you are partaking in activities that make you happy. This means you are going to have to start saying no to the things you truly do not want to do. This will leave more time and energy for the things that you actually want to
experience. Recently, I turned down a dinner that I had initially committed to because a workshop about ego versus inner truth appeared in my town and that was something that I felt more pulled to in that moment. It’s okay to cancel and it’s okay to rearrange your plans. This is your life, so don’t let others dictate how to live it.
If you are looking for more inspiration, I encourage you to check out this podcast that has helped me so much in this area of life: New Mindset, Who Dis? by Case Kenny.
My hope is that you will make the effort to get to know yourself better so that you can start living with more passion and purpose.